More Men Around More Fires

Men's circles in Aotearoa, online and around the motu

A men's circle is one of the oldest tools we have: a group of men sitting together, speaking honestly, and listening without trying to fix each other. Men have gathered around fires for thousands of years. BROS brings that practice into the modern day, through monthly online men's circles on Zoom you can join from anywhere in New Zealand, in-person local fires across the motu, and deeper weekend immersions.

Why men are gathering again

There's a quiet crisis moving through men right now. Most of us are going it alone, heads down, holding the weight, telling no one how heavy it's gotten. Most men lean on one person for everything emotional, and when that's not enough, there's nowhere to go. A man was not built to carry it alone. Circle is the other way: a couple of hours where you don't have to perform, fix, or have the answer, just to be met, honestly, by men who get it.

What happens in a BROS online circle

Each circle runs about two hours on Zoom, cameras on, in a small group. We open with breath and intention, check in, share around a theme, and close together. It's held by the LISTENS tikanga, simple agreements (Lock In, I-Statements, Sacred, Time, Engage, No Distractions, Seal It In) that keep the space safe and confidential. It's not therapy or coaching. It's brotherhood. Pay what you like, koha, money never decides who gets to sit.

Finding your circle

The simplest place to start is the next online circle, pick a date and take your seat. If you'd rather sit fireside with brothers in person, there are local fires gathering weekly and monthly in communities around Aotearoa, and seasonal gatherings and retreats throughout the year. Wherever you're starting from: the time of the lone wolf is over. More men around more fires.